No doubt most of us have been on at least one date, and the results can be quite different than we think. Today we're going to talk about what happens if your first date with sugar daddy or sugar baby doesn't live up to your expectations.
When I first started dating sugar daddy-sugar baby online, I quickly started exchanging messages with a sugar daddy who looked funny and smart. We flirted wildly back and forth in our emails, and no matter what comments I sent him, he always responded tactfully. We seem to have everything in common, and although it's hard to see his face in profile photos, he looks handsome enough to give us a try.
When we finally met, it was a different story First of all, he didn't look at all like the picture he had on his profile, although I was already in the situation, never mind that he looked like if he had chemistry, but I was disappointed to see him walking around with lazy shoulders and a head like Eeyore’s lower "Winnie the pooh". The profile picture shows the tall, confident man gone. To make matters worse, he spoke slowly and in a monotonous voice, muttering so loudly that no one could understand him. I wondered where the bright, witty person I'd just emailed with was. When I brought up a topic we had been texting, he looked at me puzzled and finally said, "I'm sorry. I can't remember most of what I said. I should tell you I'm taking a lot of medication for mental illness.
I was really devastated and I don't remember exactly how I got rid of him, but I know I did it very gracefully and quickly. Of course, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with taking psychiatric drugs, or that there's any discrimination. However, if a person cannot have a coherent conversation, they are certainly not ready to fall in love. That was the end of my first foray into online sugar dating.
But the experience isn't limited to online dating Both traditional and online daters had at least one bad experience that seemed very, very different from what they had imagined. Unfortunately, most dates suck. Sometimes they do strange or embarrassing things (like telling the waiter off at dinner). Sometimes it's obvious that there's no chemistry or connection, but either way, it's not polite to end the night. So you will endure the embarrassment until the last dessert.
Fortunately, this is not the case. While it's impossible to avoid another bad date, there are some simple changes you can make to the way you date to make your bad date a small part of the total and make your date enjoyable and worthwhile.
Expectations are inherently problematic A more concise and emotionally mature way to deal with most situations, but it's also very unrealistic to date in today's climate to sit down and make an agreement with all your dates ahead of time, detailing how you want things to ensure everyone has a safe, fun time.
So what to do? Instead of thinking about your expectations, ask yourself, "What kind of person would I want to date?"
One of my favorite tools for thinking clearly is the concept of "inevitability thinking," which basically refers to what you should do in order to make the outcome you want inevitable. For example, if you know you need to be at work by 9 a.m., what time do you need to get up? If you need to leave at 8:30, when do you need to finish making sure you're ready to leave before then? What if you need to remember to bring a folder? Where do you keep it so that you can remember to take it before you go out?
We may make many plans to help our daily lives go more smoothly, but most people don't realize that this concept can also be applied to dating. What kind of person do you need to date to make sure your date is going well? If you're having trouble with someone on a first date, it may mean you haven't spent enough time getting to know them before the date. Whether online or in person, spend more time flirting with someone before agreeing to a date.
Quality over quantity When it comes to dating, I think quality trumps quantity. Unless you have a lot of time to waste, don't focus on as many dates as possible and play the Numbers game until you find a good one. Instead, set a goal to start as many quality dates as possible.
When something doesn't live up to our expectations, it means that what we think is going to happen, or should happen, turns out to be different from what actually happened. This means that either your expectations need to meet reality, or you need to change reality to meet your expectations. I recommend doing a little of both.
What are you going to do in the future? When your next date falls short of your expectations, examine what your expectations are and ask yourself if they are realistic. I'm not saying if you deserve what you want (of course, you do), or if you might have what you want (of course, it is). I mean, ask yourself, based on this, how likely are your expectations going to be met?
Often, this helps us realize where we can get to know him better and plan ahead (remember, the inevitable mind). One of the keys to dating success is to enjoy good dates and learn from bad ones. If your expectations are based on reality, and you're really blindfolded by his dating behavior, be aware of this, too, because it could be a red flag that he's the kind of person who would disguise himself as someone else.
Finally, remember to thank your favorite date -- it will inspire him to want to take you out on a date! To be a sugar daddy's boy, follow these steps and find the perfect sugar daddy arrangement!Read Other Blogs